National Offend a Feminist Week 2010 has come to an end. So here's a nice round-up of feminist offending blogging, and a couple anti-feminist articles thrown in to boot.
Guys, don’t guilt-trip yourself about checking out this jailbait beauty. The statute of limitations has expired ...
National Offend a Feminist Week
My favorite feminist is PunditMom, the token lefty in our 9Rules Politics Community. She is a smart, successful corporate lawyer, lobbyist, author, wife, and mother. And she is oppressed Goddammit! In her mind she and her feminist sisters have most definitely not come a long way baby.
Soccer moms give educated, suburban women a bad name.
The problem with them, IMHO, is that they’ve been trained to think emotionally and they are incredibly sheltered. The worst thing that they could imagine happening to them is getting a B on an English paper at Vassar, and the worst thing they could imagine being is unpopular ...
If a group of men comes in to have lunch and maybe a beer, odds are pretty good that one of those men will pick up the tab. But, (ask any ten servers and this will be confirmed) if a group of women comes in, they will almost always ask for separate checks. It's always cause for comment among the waitstaff if a group of women doesn't ask for separate checks.
Now, I tend to think the practice of calculating shares of a group bill is cheap and petty myself, but it's of zero concern to me how or why ... What's of much more interest to me is to consider if this approach to group payment might be indicative of a similar mentality at work on a political level and if that mentality can reasonably be connected to a shift in the political economy since women were granted the right to vote. We know that the female vote has shifted the politics of the USA and other countries leftward, but is it possible that the shift is as much based on non-ideological, instinctive factors as open ideological differences?
It's 'National Offend a Feminist Week'!
Here's my effort minted fresh this morning. No reprinting of tired old retro ads for me ...
Speculum, nutcracker, or tallywhacker. You decide. If “speculum” it saddens me to point out to the Feminist editors and authors that the speculum is not “feminist technology,” but was invented by a man ...
"Menopause was change enough for me"
As part of a recent book project I've been asking women around the country: Why are you angry? What is it about the tea party movement that energizes busy working moms to get even busier organizing protests?
Christen Varley, the Boston tea party leader, she said it's because moms tend to be "the CEO's of our households. We do the shopping, bill paying, budgeting, etc. We know less money means less freedom. Maybe if the president and Congress did the grocery shopping, they'd know why we're mad."
...a record 41 percent of births were to unmarried women in 2008. That's up from 28 percent in 1990...
OMG! Calling Michelle Malkin! Kindergarten Girls Gone Wild?
RicketyClick responded to National Offend a Feminist Week by asking where’s the feminist outrage over this video of little girls in skimpy outfits dancing to Beyonce’s ”Single Lady.”
Any attempt to describe this creepazoid video fails due to the inadequacy of language. A few of the more printable YouTube comments:
“The parents should be hanged by their thumbs.”
“Holy s—. What the bloody hell were these girls’ parents thinking?”
“Omfg is this a f—ing pedophile organization?? wtf is wrong with people.”
Yeah, it’s enough to make ”family values” people cuss ...
Offend A Feminist: Love Honor And Obey
One of the most disheartening things to come out of the Feminist Movement™ is the disturbing trend by brides-to-be to demand that the wifely promise to ‘obey’ be removed from the ceremony. Most men, having been brow-beaten all their lives about how evil men were to women in the past with the result that they have been turned into simpering, faded shadows of manhood and, frankly, because they just want to get the damn thing over with with as little discomfort as possible, acquiesce without a fight [BTWFYI: not me; I fought]. As in any situation where there is no law and order, no clear authority recognized, this has led to much conflict within marriages. Let me clarify my position a bit: I believe in marriage two become one [the prayer that's made is that the union not be 'torn asunder'], that the man and woman compliment each other.
Alaina Podmorow Is To Laura Sjoberg As Joe The Plumber Is To Obama
American Power takes National Offend A Feminist Week quite seriously, relating an incident wherein he quoted Alaina Podmorow, a 13 year old Afghan girl actually supporting the cause of oppressed young women.
Laura Sjoberg, like any ivory tower authoritarian or Barack Obama, is having none of this ...
But what I found most interesting about her cautionary tale was how she followed what has increasingly become the American woman's path to delta ...
It's not that women actively dislike the "beta providers", or as I prefer to identify them, the deltas. It's merely that they are not sexually drawn to them in the way they are attracted to the brooding control freaks and the unpredictable bad boys ...What many men fail to understand, however, is that women know perfectly well that a stable and predictable man is much better for them and their children than sexually-charged submission or abandoned chaos, but to use the Freudian terms, their ids are at odds with their egos. Or, if you prefer the Roissyesque verbiage, it is thought versus tingle. This is why the gamma strategy of patiently waiting around for the woman of his dreams to "come to her senses" or as XKCD put it, "give in", is actually a perfectly viable long-term strategy, so long as it is understood that it may come at the cost of raising another man's children with a sadder, older version of the woman who first drew his attention.
[T]he main thing to take away from this is that deltas should understand that sending out "beta provider" signals is almost as much as a turn-off to young excitement-seeking women as it is a turn-on to older resource-seeking women.
Any typical television sitcom tells the sad story. On Everybody Loves Raymond , the perpetually henpecked Ray Barone is expected to endure his wife Debra's bitchiness, lack of sexual desire and anti-male barbs as she castigates every aspect of his behavior. When he wants to take off for a couple of hours to play golf, he's "not taking care of his family" (the symbolism of her denying him golf -- his putter and balls -- should be obvious); when he wants to relax in front of the TV after a hard day on the job, he "never talks to her or shares his feelings;" and when he wants sex, he's "constantly mauling her."
As every aspect of Ray's masculine nature is demeaned and belittled, he is portrayed as inferior to Debra, while she is lionized as a superior human being. If he does try to stand up for his male rights, she berates him mercilessly, usually threatening to withhold sex until he backs down and rolls over. No mention is ever made that he works all day to pay for her mortgage, car, clothing, food, insurance, and entertainment, while she spends her afternoons at home trying to learn how to cook meatballs, the most important ingredient of which, according to her mother-in-law Marie, is "love." Notice that no one points out that someone has to sweat and toil to pay for this "love."
In essence, Ray is humiliated and punished because he acts like a man and not like the "perfect" Debra, a woman. His response? He apologizes -- Debra's right, he's wrong. He should be more sensitive, romantic and sharing of his feelings. He might just as well cut off his testicles and hand them over to her on a plate.
The problem is that we are turning into a nation of Rays. The standard held up to us is entirely female. This can be easily witnessed in the rise of the "metrosexual," the straight man so feminized that, like a woman, he is obsessed with his appearance, daubs on makeup and opts for cosmetic surgery. Today, men are supposed to have "relationship skills," and they are expected to be capable of achieving "greater intimacy" and to openly express their emotions. They are supposed to be "soul mates" and to "communicate" like girlfriends, not act like testosterone-charged lovers. But at the same time, today's woman has still not shed her typical female hypocrisy; as usual, she still wants it both ways. When there's hard work to be done or bills to be paid, that's when she wants us to act like "real men."
The result? A generation of guys totally bewildered, confused and disoriented. Let's face it: A man's needs are pretty minimal. All he really asks for is regular sex and a cold one. But instead, what he gets are allegations that he's "too aggressive" and trumped-up charges of "sexual harassment" for what is simply a natural appreciation of the opposite sex. If he wants to keep his job or go on a date, he's forced to endure a gut load of female bullying.
How Misguided Feminism Prevents Relationships
Of course he became distant! You invited him to come with you and then you proceeded to ignore him. If you wanted to be able to network freely then it would have been better not to bring a date. Why are you blaming him for becoming distant when you are the one who ignored him first?
The problem here is not that she is a strong and intelligent person, the problem is that she tries too hard to be strong and independent. A relationship cannot be about independence only, if it is, then there is no actual relating going on. How can you form a relationship without vulnerability and connecting to your partner?
Surpringly, Lewis seems to have grasped some of these insights, in spite of her inability to correctly interpret why men pull away from her:
Modern women have learned to regard men as the competition, in order to get ahead professionally. And while men can accept this female aggression in the workplace, they evidently can’t in relationships.
Why would you want to be aggressive towards a man you’re dating? And why would you expect men to accept female aggression in a relationship? These expectations are absurd, and I’m happy that you’ve finally figured out what should have been self-evident.
These days I try to focus less on the flaws of feminism, and more on the potential in educating people about men’s issues. However, in this case I cannot help but blame feminism. Why else would a woman have these strange ideas about relationships? Common sense tells us that being cold, argumentative and aggressive is a lousy strategy for having a nurturing relationship, and yet this seems to be exactly what the writer has pursued in her dating life.
Towards the end of her article, the writer comes up with the most odd quote of them all:
Men love vulnerable women. We need to accept that, just because we’ve changed, we can’t expect them to. I don’t think they can.
So we cannot expect men to start liking cold, argumentative and aggressive women? Wow, that is a surprise. Do you as a woman like men who are cold, argumentative and aggressive? If not, then why do you expect men to like that kind of behavior in you?
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This is the best aggregation of NOAFW I've read. Great job and thanks, CL.
And thanks for the linkage to the best of my entries.